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6 traits of extraverts - and what introverts can learn from them

Whether a person is inclined to extraversion or introversion is innate - and neither of the two is per se “better” than the other. However, according to researchers, extraverts enjoy some advantages due to their orientation. In this post I will reveal what these are and how introverted people can also learn a slice of it.

As one of the best known and best researched concepts of personality psychology The distinction between extraversion and introversion has become common knowledge. Everyone associates it with certain associations: For example, extraverts are assigned characteristics such as “sociable”, “active”, “self-confident” and “talkative”, while introverts are more likely to be “calm”, “reserved”, “ reserved ”or even“ shy ”. holds. In fact, various studies have confirmed that extrovert people really do go to parties more often, have more friends, and make their lives busier. They actively seek out more external stimulation than introverts do.

There has been an important one in the last ten years Trend towards destigmatizing introversion. The author Susan Cain broke a lance for introverted approaches with her book "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking", made the topic accessible to a broader public and a veritable wave of blogs, books and Ted Talks triggered by introversion and the strengths of introverts. Based on this premise that both introverts and extraverts have their merits, I would now like to take a closer look at the properties of extraverts, which help them to feel more happy and successful - as an inspiration for introverts who should not become the same, but their extravert moments skillfully use for yourself.

1. Cordiality

A central characteristic of extraverted people is their warmth, which is expressed in social openness: They actively seek closeness to other people, quickly become familiar with new acquaintances or strangers, and show themselves to be inclined and not very suspicious. Friendly, nice and amiable, they appear very inviting to others and are open to almost everyone. Their warmth and ability to establish connections are also demonstrated by the fact that they like to hug and touch others often and often.

Tip for introverts: If you belong to the introverted group, behave rather cautiously when you first come into contact with others. You may not know what to say and you may be asking impersonal questions. Even if you are interested in making contact, you will often not notice that much from the outside. It's perfectly fine if you're not interested in socializing - then of course you don't have to force yourself to do it. However, should you actually want to establish contact in a situation, signal your willingness with the cordial behaviors of extraverts: Give the other person an open smile, say something personal - for example, a compliment for a piece of clothing or jewelry from the other person - and also tell something about yourself, if in doubt, how you like the weather. It may seem strange to you, but especially when the other person is extroverted, such small “cues” can lead to a first conversation, which creates a connection.

2. Sociability

As outside-oriented types, extraverts follow the motto "The more, the merrier" and enjoy spending time with (many) other people. They like to be the center of attention at parties, are more often to be found in social professions and prefer to spend their vacation “where something is going” than on a lonely beach. Communication skills are one of their strengths and they can be very entertaining.

Tip for introverts: You probably feel rather uncomfortable in new situations and in large groups and cannot take advantage of too much excitement. On the other hand, you thrive and enjoy being with good friends and colleagues with whom you have worked for a long time. However, especially in situations of upheaval, be careful not to get lonely: After separating, moving or changing jobs, it can be difficult for you to get back on track straight away, as you first have to “warm up” to new people. Therefore, feel to yourself regularly whether you really need time for yourself or whether you would actually like to have a little chat. In the latter case, take advantage of opportunities for social contacts, even if they put you off at first: At parties, in the sports club or in the VHS course, you can also find people with whom deep connections are possible.

3. Assertiveness

A certain, self-assured demeanor, determination and willingness to make decisions - these are sought-after qualities with which extraverts score not only on the job. Due to their self-confident charisma, other people often trust them a lot. It often seems “natural” that they take on leadership and responsibility in groups and determine where to go. This makes a good impression in job assessments and is also often impressive in private, for example on potential partners.

Tip for introverts: Unfortunately, in the society in which we live, the introverted approach often has a detrimental effect. As an inwardly oriented person, you are likely to have any form of self-expression and you will not interrupt others in order to force yourself to the fore. What is positively associated with authenticity and modesty and something special about you can unfortunately lead to being underestimated or overlooked in a world that swears by the right marketing. This is annoying and you don't have to bend around and do excessive self-marketing because of it! This would probably make you feel “fake”. But make sure to express yourself in a targeted manner and to bring in your arguments, ideas and strengths in any case. Often a statement from you has a lot more content and weight than a whole monologue from so many others.

4. Activity

Extraverted people usually lead hectic lives - gladly and voluntarily! They don't sit around for a long time weighing things up, but rather make decisions quickly or impulsively, which they immediately put into practice. This tendency often helps them to be highly productive and means that they actually realize their ideas and dreams - even if there is a risk of getting bogged down because of too many projects.

Tip for introverts: You would never pack your schedule as full as your extrovert friends and colleagues, because you regularly need quiet time for yourself to recharge your batteries. Therefore, of course, you are no lazier than busier people and no less successful. Your tendency to think things through carefully is also part of your temperament and should not be convulsively converted into blind actionism. However, as inspiration for more productivity, you can learn from the extraverts that To really make important projects a reality for you at some point. Because of your inner orientation, you sometimes tend to act out something only in your head. However, contemplating a possible trip or an interesting hobby is not the same as experiencing it - so gradually start putting your bucket list into action!

5. Hunger for adventure

Because they perceive a higher level of neural arousal in their brain as pleasant than introverts, extraverts actively seek external stimulation and excitement. Bright colors, loud music, intense feelings? Such stimulation is just right for them and they love situations that provide them with it. They also like a certain thrill and are not afraid of any risks: from rollercoaster rides to extreme sports, they can find something exciting themselves about danger. Accordingly, extraverts often opt for freelance or entrepreneurial activities.

Tip for introverts: For you it should probably be more quiet tones, emotional balance and calm paths in your life, right? Where others would be bored, you will find the desired relaxation and tranquility in a routine lifestyle without too many surprises. I can only recommend to stay true to yourself and not to be confused by supposed "must-dos"that you “absolutely have to experience”! Bungee jumping, excesses and general “extreme experiences” are not necessary for a happy life. It is important that you listen to what YOU really want to experience and how YOU want to live - and that you take the level of risk with which you feel comfortable.

6. Experience happiness

What emerges most clearly as an advantage for extraverts is their propensity for positive emotions. Exuberant, enthusiastic and happy, they specifically seek out situations that increase their positive mood. With upbeat music, funny movies, and engaging company, they manage to maintain good feelings for long periods of time, while in introverts they flatten out more quickly. With their exuberant manner and cheerful mood, extraverts easily infect others and regularly experience feelings such as euphoria and ecstasy.

Tip for introverts: They are by no means the opposite of extraverts, i.e. bad-tempered, pessimistic or unhappy. Your mood scale is simply less pronounced, you experience and show positive feelings as a rule less intensely. There's nothing wrong with that - interestingly, however, studies show that both extroverts and introverts feel happiest when they experience extroverted momentsThat is when they feel happy, energetic, and sociable. Extraversion and introversion are not static properties, but each person moves within a certain range. So it is interesting for introverts to know that - even if they usually feel comfortable in their introverted mode - they benefit greatly from extraverted moments and activities, which are just as important to their long-term happiness as living in harmony with their need for rest .

In conclusion, I would like to emphasize again that both extras and introverts have specific strengths and weaknesses and no one should try to become a different person. Both approaches and behaviors are important and right. Therefore, see these tips as suggestions for life in an extraverted society and as opportunities rather than as mandatory adjustments to your character. In return, extraverts can learn a lot from introverts - that's what a future article will be about.

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