Does Islam allow sex

Sexuality and Islam"As soon as a kiss scene was running, it was switched over"

"Sex sells!" - A well-known phrase from the advertising industry that means exactly what it expresses: Many things sell better when they are sexualized. The entertainment sector around the world is taking advantage of this. This irritates people with a pronounced sense of shame - in many cultures, including Muslims. The North Rhine-Westphalian State Secretary for Integration, Serap Guler, comes from a traditional Turkish guest worker family and knows this sensitivity from her own youth.

"I have to be very honest about the topic of sexuality, it is still the case that many Muslims in Germany are very tense with the topic and, even if they have been socialized here, do not somehow have normal access to sexuality. May also be a question of upbringing. I too grew up in such a way that as soon as a kissing scene was on TV somehow it would switch over. "

"Islam is not at all prudish"

Many Muslims in Germany - and also non-Muslims - should remember such reactions from their parents. Professor Mathias Rohe, on the other hand, a lawyer and Islamic scholar at the University of Erlangen-Nuremberg, outlines the relationship between Islam and sexuality as follows:

"Sexuality has a high priority, Islam is not at all prudish, in the sense: sexuality, if it absolutely has to be, for procreation. No! There is definitely a positive basic attitude."

Enes Curuk can only agree with this. He is 28 years old, lives in the Rhineland and studied Islamic theology in Ankara:

"We can read from the Koran that sexuality belongs to the human being, to the being in itself, that it is part of his being. In this respect we would be able to filter out from the Koranic point of view and also from the life of the Prophet that Sexuality through and through, that is, through the social classes, is a self-confident topic for both men and women. "

Sexual rules were originally intended to protect

Nevertheless, there are clear rules of the game in Islam, which are often interpreted as prohibitions. For example: no sex during menstruation or no sex while fasting in Ramadan. And: Islam tries to channel sexuality. Sex is only allowed between spouses. This rule has a historical origin, explains Mathias Rohe:

"It is described that Islam arose in a society in which promiscuity prevailed, in which extremely liberal sexual mores were supposed to have prevailed. We do not know exactly. And there you try to get the matter into proper channels, in other words: Sexuality is only allowed within marriage. "

Islamic scholar Mathias Rohe (imago stock & people / argum / Falk Heller)

Tales from the pre-Islamic period in Mecca make it clear that women were given an inferior role. To give birth to a daughter was considered a humiliation. Hundreds of little girls were buried alive when they were two or three years old in pre-Islamic times. Women were bought and sold by wealthy men. Sex with them was a given, explains Enes Curuk.

"This disorder and this arbitrariness in people's sexual practices not only cause diseases as we know them today. It also creates side effects. That is, sex is only a means to an end - and everything else is secondary."

"You always have this feeling of guilt"

Islam, on the other hand, guaranteed rights to women. Limiting sex to marriage was an essential step. But how does it look today? In the modern world of the 21st century, many of these problems may have been unnecessary. At least that is what some representatives of liberal Islam argue. But in reality it still looks very different today, says the Islamic scholar and lawyer Mathias Rohe.

"At least in the minds and hearts of many when it comes to young women and women as a whole. This shows that traditional Islam is built on a cultural patriarchy, just like other religions, by the way. Basically, theoretically it should be There are no differences. In practice, they are very, very widespread, so the idea: 'Such a young man - he should be allowed to try himself out! It's no shame if he gets around any woman!' That is widely accepted, even if it is basically not permissible according to Islamic theology. "

"I think the conflicts are stronger with Muslim women than with Muslims," ​​says Serap Güler (picture-alliance / dpa / Rolf Vennenbernd)

The CDU politician and integration expert also feels this difference between young Muslim men and women is unjust:

"I think the conflicts are stronger with Muslim women than with Muslims. One already has the impression that men, even if they define themselves as believers, have a much freer or more uninhibited way of dealing with sexuality than is the case with women And those are very strong conflicts when young Muslim women in particular have the feeling, even if you are with someone for a long time, that you are not allowed to live out your sexuality. So whether you do it or not is something different. But you have always this feeling of guilt when you freely admit your sexual needs as a person or when you allow yourself to do something forbidden and sinful. I think these conflicts are still less common with men. "

How to deal with grievances?

Enes Curuk thinks about how these abuses can be remedied from a theological perspective.

"How can we avoid that Muslim women are still oppressed, still forced, still forced into marriage by Muslim men, that is, by men in their own families, in the name of culture and religion? I firmly believe that this is the case primarily due to an injustice in the sexual education and bringing up of these men. "

Enes Curuk insists that sexuality should be conveyed differently. And Islamically correct:

"Limiting sexuality itself to the sexual act is a fatal mistake from an Islamic point of view, because it creates the problems just mentioned that sex is a means to an end, above all a means by which the woman is subordinate to the eyes of the men others because it is the means to an end. I believe that the sexual act should be understood as, in the truest sense of the word, an act of love. "

Contraception highly controversial

When it comes to sexuality, contraception is an important issue. There are two Muslim fronts on this issue. Some recommend using modern contraceptives. Others say, according to Mathias Rohe:

"No, contraception is strictly forbidden. This is an import from the West. They only try to weaken us. It's good if there are a lot of us." And who are therefore very skeptical about contraception. Also there we occasionally have such cultural characteristics that are basically not rooted in Islam, but rather in the idea that it is good for a family to have as many heads as possible - and especially male heads. "

The young Muslim Enes Curuk refers to Mohammed in order to invalidate the position of those opposed to contraception.

"Ultimately, we know from some traditions of the Prophet, which emerged in response to questions from the Companions, that the Prophet approved contraceptive methods that were practiced at that time, or in some traditions also practiced them himself."

Sexuality and contraception are therefore a hot topic within the Muslim community. The points of view differ widely.